This is just going to be a few short thoughts.
Tonight I decided to find the rest of my ex's on facebook (most of them I am already friends with), to see how their lives have turned out. There was one specifically who I wanted to find but did not remember his last name. He was a skater who I thought was the coolest thing ever. We had some good times, especially because two of my friends dated his best friends. Those were the days!!! We were so young and happy! (not that I am not happy now, but it was different then).
After a few clicks here and there I was able to remember his last name and find this ex of mine. Not only did he have a facebook account but he also had a blog ... and of course I had to check it out. I wanted to find out a little more about his life now. In the blog, his wife stated "10 years... I can remember the first time that we each told each other that we loved the other after maybe a month of dating." I can remember around that time too. I can remember it because he broke up with me to date her, so I was still around. I had known her while we were dating too and we had done things with our group of friends. It is interesting how a large majority of guys I've dated have married the next girl they dated after me. But anyway, that is another story.
Over all I was happy to see that he and most of the other guys that didn't really seem to have it together when we dated now seem to have accomplished a lot and have a nice life with a cute little family. I can only hope that maybe I made a little bit of a difference in their lives. It was good to see that I didn't date total weirdo's too, but honestly what they have accomplished I credit to their great wives who believed in them perhaps more than I could have believed in them.
Cristina, I really like this post. It is really cool that you can look back with such a positive attitude. I admire that you can recognize that perhaps there was someone better suited for these guys that you had dated, to help them achieve a greater potential. Sometimes it is hard to not be bitter when things don't work out. You are an awesome girl who will undoubtedly make someone's life much better than they can make it on their own.
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ReplyDeleteI had the same problem, it seemed like every guy I dated married the next girl they dated, it got frustrating! It is cool to see how everything turns out though! You are amazing!
Like Robby said, I really like this post. I like how you blog about things I think of often, and wonder about, but I don't really like talking about them. Maybe cause it hits so close to home, and I'm scarred. I do like your positive attitude. I have been bitter a lot of time with the girls in my past relationships, because like you, I have also found that I was the last one they dated before they got married. Not sure how that works out, but a lot of times I felt like I was getting shafted.
ReplyDeleteI do like to think that I pulled something great from my experiences and have become stronger and wiser than I was before. I'm sure you are much the same way. You will be the maquina to some guys' dream someday :)
Thanks for all your great thoughts you guys!!!
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